According to the dictionary, best friend is the most trusted and most valuable person with whom you can also have fun.
More and more often, I see people in social media interacting between themselves even if they don’t know each other. There are plenty of groups where individuals can meet and discuss a variety of topics. It can be a discussion on recent political activities in particular countries. Or it can be a discussion on gardening and how to grow roses. The idea or interest unite people from all over the world through the utilization of social media. But I started to wonder whether folks use Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter as a tool to enhance their knowledge or as an instrument to fight solitude?
I don’t know every person in this world and can’t talk on behalf of everyone. However, I can speak on behalf of myself.
On the internet, I found numerous articles about the decreasing numbers of close friends per
After my little research, I went to the park, sat down on the bench, and begun to process received information in my brain. I wanted to understand why solitude and social isolation became a threat to humanity and how it affected me? I could not find the answer right away, so I pulled my cell phone out of the pocket and decided to find clues on Youtube.
And at that very moment, it struck me why I became a socially isolated hermit and what was the reason for this. It is very convenient to blame things and people around you instead of blaming yourself. And that is exactly what I intend to do further. I don’t blame anyone in my failures, although I blame the three things that I used to consider as my friends.
While sitting on the bench that sunny afternoon alone, I realized that my friends failed me. They caused me irreversible solitude and inability to perceive reality. Just let me introduce each of them briefly so you can understand their impact on my life.
Please, meet my best friends
My first best pal is my smartphone. I can’t exist without him. I carry him with me wherever I go and whatever I do. I use him not only to make calls, play games, or watch Comedy Club on Youtube but also to access social media. And once I have entered the social network, I can check the news feed. I can see what some of my 500 internet friends ate this morning or how happy they are with their newborn babies.
I can see that instead of sharing the most precious moments of their lives with their families and real friends, they prefer to share them with the online community. And even as happy as I am to see newborn children, I don’t care about the one on my feed simply because I met its father two years ago and know nothing about his personal life. He added me on Facebook, and now I have to feel embarrassed while unwillingly sharing this experience with him. I already wrote previously about the disturbing influence of social media in our lives.
My second best bud is a huge TV in my living room. When the day is over and there is nothing left to do in the apartment on a weeknight, I take the remote control and turn him on. I lie down on the comfortable sofa after a hard day, open a bottle of beer, and engage in the process of zombification. After having listened to the news and being reassured that wars and famine in the world are still going on, I switch to Netflix.
I watch my favorite episodes or look for a nice movie for about half an hour and finally start to enjoy being with TV for the rest of the evening before I go to bed. Sometimes we even go to bed together, but he never took advantage of me… If I am too tired, I fall asleep on the couch, and he covers me with a blanket. Or maybe it’s my girlfriend? I never asked.
And finally, ladies and gentlemen, my third best friend is my computer. My PC and I have a long history together, which makes our relationship more special. He helped me write my final paper required to obtain a Bachelor’s degree. He introduced me to video games, porn, and social media when I was a teenager. He was the one to show me how to find a job on the Internet.
Moreover, the computer is still assisting me with taking language classes online, competing for money rewards in my favorite video game called Counter-Strike: Global Offensive, and starting my new website. Even now, we are writing this article together. I would never achieve success without him.
The conclusions I made
Now you got acquainted with all of my best friends. And you are probably asking why they failed me if they have been so helpful and kind to me. To answer this, you have to imagine myself swimming in the pool in one of the resorts of beautiful Thailand. I was there 3 years ago, enjoying the sun, water, and nature. At that moment, I did not have a TV in my room, I lost my cell phone somewhere on the beach, and the PC was left at home back in Kyiv. I did not have my friends with me.
But what I did have was my acute sense of observation. Once out of the pool where I used to spend afternoons during my vacation, I noticed five couples laying on their sunbeds. While some of the individuals were reading books, most of them were using their smartphones without any desire to talk to surrounding them
I remembered this episode from my life while sitting on the bench in the park. I made some calculations in my head, analyzed the past and present, and came to a conclusion. I became one of the individuals who hide in the shadow of the sunbed with a smartphone in their hands instead of enjoying the sun and talking to other people in person. I forgot how it is to have a human best friend.
I realized that I stopped nurturing happiness in my life by talking to real people. I got sucked so much into the vortex of social media that I completely forgot the meaning of friendship… real friendship. I am a socially isolated hermit who has nobody on his side but three best friends.
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